Are We All Guilty at Heart? (2024)

Are We All Guilty at Heart? (1)

Albert Camus' Absurdism

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Have you ever been wrongly accused of a crime? Or even worse, have you ever been accused of a crime by someone who has committed that very same crime against you? If not, imagine someone accusing you of stealing their teddy bear after stealing your teddy bear. Sounds awful, right? But certainly not unusual.

Criminological statistics suggest that more than half of all false positives (wrongful convictions, that is) within all criminal justice systems are the consequence of deflections and strategies to cover and hide the crime by accusing the victim. Modern social media culture calls this “victim-blaming.” But why is attack considered such a prevalent strategy of defense?

In her musings on colonialism and its effects, Simon Weil anticipates what psychoanalysis after Melanie Klein will theorize as projection. The problem, Weil thinks, why colonialism and historical tragedy more generally can never be fully “worked through” (or what the Germans would call Entnazifizierung (de-Nazification) or nowadays Erinnerungskultur (literally “memory-culture”) “is that, as a general rule, a people’s generosity rarely extends to making the effort to uncover the injustices committed in their name.” Rather than shouldering the burden of guilt, we tend to rid ourselves of anguish by projecting the causes outwards. As Jacqueline Rose writes in her book The Plague, projection absolves the “human subject, regardless of what they may have done or what might have been enacted in their name,” of having to “shoulder the burden of guilt, whether historic or personal.”

Melanie Klein, the famous Austro-British Object-Relations Theorist, describes this psychic mechanism as follows:

In so far as we register the evil and ugliness within us, it horrifies is and we reject it like vomit. Through the operation of transference, we transport this discomfort into the things that surround us. But these same things, which turn ugly and sullied in turn, send back to us, increased, the ill we have lodged inside them. In this process of exchange, the evil within us expands and we start to feel that the very milieu in which we are living is a prison (Rose, 2023, p. 112).

Simon Weil herself was no stranger to projection. She is known to want to “besmirch the whole universe with her misery in order not to have to feel, or contain, the pain within her,” says Jacqueline Rose (ibid). The cause of her misery was a headache. “She also found herself wanting to hit other people on the head” (ibid.), but “like all enacts of projection or acting out, this would have made matters worse.” Weil, a devoted Christian, recognized this predicament: As Christ takes the burden of the world’s misery on himself, he interrupts a cycle of projection.

D.W. Winnicott, a contemporary of Klein, goes as far as saying that the hardest path for the individual to take is “to see that all the greed, aggression and deceit in the world might have been his own responsibility, even if in point of fact it is not.” That, and what is more, not all of us have the qualities of a Jesus. Remember, as I mentioned before, more than half of all false positives (wrongful convictions) within criminal justice systems are the consequence of deflections and strategies to cover and hide the crime by accusing the victim.

Research on the reactions of guilty and innocent people is interesting here.

Innocent people react to false accusations in a variety of ways. Common reactions include surprise and disbelief, denial of the accusation, anger and frustration, a desire to prove their innocence, and a willingness to cooperate with any efforts to investigate the situation. Most innocent accused display shock and confusion when wrongfully accused, and this disbelief can be further compounded if the accused does not understand the details of the accusation or why they are being suspected of wrongdoing.

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This doubt and confusion usually turn into an effort to deny, as most innocent people will firmly deny any claims against them. Interestingly, this denial of being accused of wrongdoing is often based on the belief that their moral code and values would never lead them to act in the ways they are accused, regardless of whether these personal moral values align with the legal code. Imagine being wrongly accused of stealing a soft toy. You will most likely deny and protest your innocence on the basis of your moral apprehension for soft toy theft. You will focus on the moral quality of the act (“I would never steal a soft toy) rather than the legal quality of the accusation (“I would never steal a soft toy”).

Often, the feeling of being disbelieved in one’s moral standards can lead to anger, which may be directed toward the accuser or toward anyone else involved in suggesting or fuelling the accusation. Interestingly, however, those expressions of anger do not usually entail projections. For that is a sign of guilt. Returning to the example at hand, innocents won’t usually accuse others of soft toy theft when wrongly accused of stealing a soft toy.

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Now, what is criminologically considered a sign of guilt?

Most guilty individuals will, at least for some period of time, delve into protestations of innocence. However, certain signs may indicate guilt regardless. Common signs of guilt are the attempt to conceal evidence, evasion, and a refusal to cooperate. Another common sign of guilt is disproportionate panic and fear.

However, the most indicative sign of guilt is the attempt to deflect. A guilty person may try to shift the focus away from themselves and onto others, perhaps by making accusations or spreading rumors about someone else. This is what psychoanalysts have called “projection,” where the individual tries to transfer their own negative emotions and actions onto someone else. As Klein says,

In so far as we register the evil and ugliness within us, it horrifies is and we reject it like vomit. Through the operation of transference, we transport this discomfort into the things that surround us.

Jesus chose not to deflect. But arguably, he didn’t even deny the accusation as the innocent would do. In that, perhaps Jesus was a criminological anomaly. Since we can’t all be like Jesus, neither guilty nor protesting our innocence, Winnicott thinks we are all accountable, or in any case, we should all behave as if we were. Are we really all (a bit) guilty?

The proposition “guilty until proven innocent” is, of course, the Leitmotiv of Kafkaesque literature and horrifying precisely because of that. In Kafka, as in Albert Camus’ The Fall and The Stranger, guilt is administered seemingly universally and, chillingly, arbitrarily. The accused in Kafka and Camus are accused, but they don’t exactly know of what, precisely. It is this state of Limbo, in Dante’s sense, this state of unpredictability, of uncertainty, that makes the works of Kafka and Camus so unbearable, so unsettling. Camus and Kafka, I think, have proven why Dante’s Limbo, where everything is uncertain, where one is guilty until proven innocent, is actually worse than the Inferno, where, at least, I suffer for my innocence forlorn.

So, to think with Winnicott that we should act as if we are all just a bit guilty, I think, is being advised to self-flagellate, to live in constant torture. We can’t bear the guilt, and hence, we administer blame. We even blame victims to let off some steam, to escape the Limbo of being not yet proven guilty but not fully innocent either. Winnicott’s society is one that won’t go without the administration of blame, which includes the blaming of the innocent. I don’t think we should follow his advice and think ourselves at least somewhat guilty all the time––guilty of what, precisely?

The solution, rather, I think, is to rid ourselves of the compulsion to blame. This, I believe, is the lesson of Kafka and Camus: stop this morbid desire to blame, and we will no longer all be guilty until proven innocent. Importantly, this is not an advice for Christian self-flagellation, either, since to self-flagellate is to take on blame. The key is in suppressing the desire to blame, the desire to project. Integrity, perhaps, is what we call it. Integrity is to admit stealing the soft toy, even though that will make you look guilty.

Are We All Guilty at Heart? (2024)

FAQs

Why do we feel guilt after death? ›

Because we want order.

This is a big reason for why we experience guilt and blame, though as grievers we often fail to see this connection. The bottom line is this: without someone or something to blame, we have to accept that the universe may be unpredictable and chaotic.

What makes us feel guilty? ›

You may experience guilt when you feel responsible for a mistake. Or, you may feel guilty if you feel responsible for something that happened to someone else. Guilt is not the same as shame, which implies feelings of inadequacy for not meeting self-imposed expectations.

Why do I feel guilty in my heart? ›

Guilt is a common human emotion that we might all experience at some point. It arises when we feel remorse or sadness about a past action that we believe has caused harm or has goes against our moral principles.

What are the three types of guilt? ›

It is believed that there are three different types of guilt that humans experience: reactive, anticipatory, and existential.

How do you not feel guilty after death? ›

Dealing With Guilt After a Loss
  1. Write a list of the things you regret.
  2. Identify any regrets that you can act upon. ...
  3. Forgive yourself for those regrets that you cannot act on to correct.
  4. Recognize what you have done well, and congratulate yourself for it.

What are the two types of survivor guilt? ›

Some survivors feel guilty that they survived when others died. Others believe they could have done more to save the lives of others. And then there are those who feel guilty that another person died saving them.

What organ does guilt affect? ›

Increased muscle tension: Excessive guilt can cause physical symptoms such as muscle tension, which can affect bladder function and lead to problems such as urinary frequency and urgency. Stress can also cause the muscles in the pelvic floor to become tense.

What is the root cause of feeling guilty? ›

Like all self-conscious emotions, guilt originates from a process of self-evaluation and introspection and may involve your perception of how others value you. Psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud originally proposed humans experience guilt for the first time from a fear of parental punishment.

What does the Bible say about guilt? ›

Hebrews 10:22

You can come to God with confidence and faith, totally free from guilt and condemnation. Don't let guilt keep you from drawing near to God. You have been cleansed and washed by the blood of Christ. His blood is powerful enough for even your worst sins.

How to remove guilt from your heart? ›

Getting rid of feelings of guilt requires a combination of self-reflection, self-compassion, and taking responsibility for your actions.
  1. Make amends when necessary.
  2. Practice self-forgiveness.
  3. Be open about your feelings.
  4. Practice self-compassion.
  5. Stop negative self-talk.
  6. Seek professional help.
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Does guilt ever go away? ›

Dear Guilty: Guilt does go away, and careful behavior helps to usher it out.

How do guilty people act? ›

This can manifest in several ways, from sweating and trembling to sudden outbursts of emotion. Another sign to look for is a desire to deflect blame. A guilty person may try to shift the focus away from themselves and onto others, perhaps by making accusations or spreading rumors about someone else.

What is the best therapy for guilt? ›

Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is one approach that involves learning to recognize the negative thoughts that lead to feelings of guilt. By learning to replace these thoughts with more positive ones, people may be able to let go of the burdens that are contributing to their guilt complex.

What emotion is under guilt? ›

Guilt is aversive and—like shame, embarrassment, or pride—has been described as a self-conscious emotion, involving reflection on oneself.

What mental illness causes guilt? ›

OCD and depression are two significant others to guilt. OCD is all about recurring thoughts (obsessions) and actions (compulsions) that are uncontrollable. Guilt can act as a predecessor or an enabler for OCD. If you feel guilty about a thought or action, it may stick to the forefront of your mind for a long time.

Why do I feel guilty after losing something? ›

It's human to form attachments to so many things, especially objects that symbolise something about a loved person or place,” she says. “We think the loss of the item means we've abandoned the person or time it signified; we've been careless, and we feel bad about ourselves for losing it.”

Why do humans get survivors guilt? ›

Survivor's guilt is the response to an event that some people experience when they survive a traumatic event or situation that others did not.

What stage of grief is guilt? ›

4. Bargaining. The bargaining stage is about making promises to yourself or a higher being, asking the universe for a chance to put things right. A bereaved person may seek reason where there is none, and may feel guilty about how they behaved, or feel in some way to blame.

Why do people feel bad after killing someone? ›

Even if you're justified, killing someone means you've taken something away that can never be given back, never replaced, never repaired, never ameliorated. It's absolutely irreversible. That's a heavy burden to carry.

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